Parenting and the Big Mental Energy Dip
During my late teens and early twenties I had an incredible amount of energy. And I would mostly put that to good use. When I was a parent it collapsed incredibly hard, but the good news is, it does come back! This slightly self-absorbed post (sorry about that) is written to celebrate that but also as an encouragement to other parents.
I've always been blessed with a lot of energy to get things done.
1 - When I was 16-18, I worked 20+ hours per week while being a full time high school student. I also set out to watch all IMDB Top 250 movies within a year or two. On many weeknights I watched 2, 3 or 4 films after 9pm. I would go to bed around 4am and be at school at 8:20am. Healthy no, but it was fun and I did it for a long time. I never finished all 250, but got really close!
2 - At ages 18 to 22 I went for two full-time university degrees in Computer Science and Artificial Intelligence simultaneously. I also started my own company, joined two study groups and had plenty of parties.
3 - Between 22 and 25 I started working, I learnt new computing paradigms, started a tech blog for the awesome company I had joined, I kept studying part-time and did an incredible amount of side projects. I also switched from Cloud Engineer to Product Manager and again partied a bit more than was good for me.
But then at 25 I got my son, a true bundle of joy. It was hard work but I still managed to have a decent work/life balance (in favor of work). When my wife got pregnant again and delivered twins at 27, things changed. My work dropped down to mostly 9 to 5. I was always tired. Side projects got replaced by watching Netflix and falling asleep next to the kids when putting them to bed, if I closed my eyes for a second too long.
I saw this meme and something didn't feel right: